There can often be a lot of pressure from individuals and communities for someone to forgive their abuser. And this pressure can be so damaging. As a therapist, I’m here to tell you that you absolutely do not “need to forgive” your abuser and why you don’t need to.
Foundational to the work of therapy is this: being able to feel and appropriately express our feelings is the key to living a more enlivened, rich life. In today’s post, I share with you concrete tools to learn how to do this. It’s an essential read if you struggle to identify the emotions you are feeling and/or have trouble regulating how much, how little, or how you express them to others.